Tips & Tricks | Wedding photography- First Looks

Our Favorite first looks

Submitted by: Andrea Murphy, of Andrea Murphy Photography

Who loves a great first look? As a photographer it’s one of my favorite parts of the day! I don’t just say that because it makes my job a bit easier (because of course it does) but because it’s truly a beautiful moment. And these photos will prove that! First I’d like to dispel a few myths about having a first look.

Myth 1: "If you see each other before you walk down the aisle the moment won’t be special."

My experience is that, overwhelmingly, the couples (especially the grooms) are far more emotional during the processional if they’ve seen one another. I think it’s because the pressure is off - they’ve already hugged, kissed, and loved on each other and now they just get to be fully present in that moment.

Myth 2: "It breaks tradition."

Okay, okay I understand because I love me some tradition and am an old soul. However, new traditions are created all of the time. I’ve been photographing first looks for 17 years and this isn’t a new concept. If you look into where some of these traditions originated you might be a little horrified and you’ll definitely have a giggle. This is your wedding and you can do what you please.  

Myth 3: "Pictures are the only reason to have a first look."

I won’t deny that having time for photos is a major advantage to seeing one another before the ceremony, but there’s a lot of great reasons for a first look. Before we move away from the photos thing, I’d like to expand (I’m a photographer after all).  When you have your engagement or bridal photos, you don’t run out and do them in 10 minutes, right? So why on the wedding day itself rush through as quickly as you can because your guests are waiting? You’ve made a significant investment in your photographer it’s in your best interest to make the most of that investment by having gorgeous photos of you and your spouse.

Beyond that though what better day to spend together than your wedding day? You’re with your fiance all the time and they are who you’d rather spend your time than anyone else. So why on the wedding day suddenly quarantine yourself from seeing and talking to one another? This is both of your wedding day and you should be able to enjoy it together.

So if that didn’t convince you I’d like to offer you some photographic evidence from our Tulsa Wedding Society members. We have collaborated to show you some of our sweetest and fun first looks that we’ve had the honor in which to take part.

Andrea Murphy Photography


And just to add a cherry on top of these sweet photos, here’s a video from Pen Weddings of a few adorable first looks.  

Copyright, PenWeddings || The Huffington Post recently shared a blog post saying that First Looks or First Sights are stupid. We wholeheartedly disagree. Whether to do a first look is up to you. It's a personal decision and you should do what makes you happy.


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Featured Wedding | Heather + Brandon


submitted by: Whitney Hewitt of Erica Weddings

As a wedding planner, you dream of one day just as much as your own: the day your best friend gets married. Not only that, but my best friend Heather is also on the team at Erica Weddings as a Set Up Manager. I knew one thing would be extra true with this wedding: it was all about the details.

Brandon’s mother lost her battle to cancer early on when Heather and Brandon were dating. The couple remembered her with a special in loving memory bouquet as well as Brandon wore a charm with her portrait on the inside of his jacket, closest to his heart.

The farmhouse tables used for the head table were built by Whitney and Heather by hand and are used daily in their own homes. Heather and Brandon love to hunt together. Since their wedding fell on the first day of rifle season, many weren’t surprised that the morning of their wedding they could be found in a tree stand. If you look closely in her bouquet and centerpieces you’ll see turkey feathers from one of their hunts together.

With so many personal details, this wedding was an emotional day filled with love. Heather’s brother officiated the ceremony and there wasn’t a dry eye around.

Featured Tulsa Wedding Society Members:

Planning & Coordination | Erica Weddings

DJ and Lighting | LionsRoad

Cake and Cookies | Ms. Laura’s Cakes

Rentals | Party Perfect


Other wedding vendors:

Venue: Riverbend Ranch

Flowers: Tina’s Floral Design

Photography: Hibben Photography

Gown: Facchianos

Featured Wedding | Viktoriya + Craig

Real Oklahoma Wedding

Submitted by: Andrea Murphy Photography

From the moment we met with Viktoriya, we knew this wedding would be different. She started off by telling the story of how she had given up on love to focus on a career and that was when Craig walked into her bank and life, and shortly her heart. From the first moment, Craig was enamored by the lovely Viktoriya and asked his contact at the bank to make up and excuse for him to come back so he could see her.
One thing followed another and within a few short months they were engaged and planning a wedding, both so very in love and excited to plan their perfect day. The couple chose to get married on a perfect August day at the Golf Club of Oklahoma with their family and friends in attendance.

Featured Tulsa Wedding Society Members:

Wedding Planning & Floral | Mom & Me Events

Music & Entertainment | Infinity Music

Event Draping | Soft Touch Draping

Wedding Cake | Ms. Laura's Cake

Wedding Photography | Andrea Murphy Photography

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Trends | Wedding trends for 2018

5 Wedding Trends to look for in 2018!

Planner Advice | by Mom and Me Events


Submitted resources, ideas, opinions, and photos included below were provided by a current member:

Mom & Me Events,  an event planner, of The Tulsa Wedding Society.


Hi friends, Rene Punch here of Mom & Me Events! I can’t believe we’re already well into 2018! Time sure is flying. I love to predict what trends will be big in the wedding world for the upcoming year. I take inspiration from online resources, home décor trends and, of course, what my current clients are asking for. With that in mind, here’s what I think will be a few of the biggest wedding trends in 2018:

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Hanging Floral Pieces

– Depending on your venue, the possibilities of hanging structures in the ceiling are sure to grab attention and add that lush detail you may be looking for in your design. They can be hung over the wedding cake, head table, or anywhere you want to make a statement. Consider using silk flowers; this helps with weight and cost and often the piece can be rented when using silks.


Metallic Accents

- Using various metallic vases, chargers, or votive candles can be a great metallic addition to your tablescape. Mercury glass has been around and I don’t think it’s going anywhere soon; however Copper is sure making a big statement.


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Colored Candles

- Candles will always add such a cozy ambience to any wedding. But this year, instead of the standard white and ivory candles, I think couples will add a splash of color to their décor accents. Candles in striking colors on your tablescapes or peppered throughout the event space are such an easy way to add something unexpected to your décor.


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Draping Floral

Amaranthus – It’s back! Just another example of how trends can come back around. So many couples are asking to incorporate amaranthus in their décor. The cascading bloom gives floral pieces a lush feel and the bold color adds some interest.



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– Lots of greenery adds a natural element and makes things feel very organic. Perfect for spring and summer weddings!


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What wedding trends are you most excited for in 2018?





Featured Vendor | The French Bouquet


Today I sat down with Anne Marie Foy of the French Bouquet to discuss all things floral. She gladly offered some valuable insight and expert advice for brides to consider regarding floral design trends and the D.I.Y. approach verses hiring a professional wedding florist for their special event.



Anne Marie Foy of The French Bouquet

Here is what she had to say:

Q. How do you respond to the current, popular trend of oversized bouquets with lots of greenery that we are seeing lately in weddings?

A. "I would prefer to see smaller bouquets again, personally. I feel like this trend is a tired mix of the "80's" meets Ikebana. I would prefer to complement the brides' gowns rather than hide them with humongous floral pieces. I hope to redirect this overdone trend by offering D.I.Y. design classes to interested brides."

Q. What direction would you personally like to go with new trends?

A. "I would really like to see design ideas evolve and become more out of the box than what our brides are currently seeing on Pinterest. I can actually offer several different design styles. I am often considered the master of white weddings but, I can offer so much more variety than what I have done in the past. I want to encourage brides to stop conforming to what other brides are doing by being bold and embracing their true personality. I have 15 years of experience, a huge design space, several talented staff members and we are ready to step up to the challenge with the services we have to offer."

Q. What do you feel is most important for a bride to expect when booking with a florist?

A. "Gained trust in our knowledge and experience with product and design as well trust in our abilities. Brides should trust in experienced florists to give them the best options in designs and products. Secondly, connection is very important. Brides need to be excited about our ideas as floral designers and we want them to actually feel the enthusiasm and passion in what we do."

Q. What to you say to brides who are considering DIY with their own bouquets?

A. "Of course, I love to do weddings myself, but I am in the process of starting up workshops soon to educate brides on how to make pretty bouquets on their own. I am very excited and passionate to share my knowledge with brides who prefer to do their own flowers. My goal is to provide with them a more personal tutorial experience in achieving a D.I.Y. approach."

If you have more questions for Anne Marie and her staff, send them an email today! They look forward to visiting with you! Email: By Phone:  918-747-6750