What advice would you give a couple trying to decide whether hiring a wedding planner is within their means?
Naturally, we are great proponents of hiring a wedding planner to reduce stress on the couple and their family when it comes to planning the wedding. Are you concerned that hiring a planner would break the bank? One of the most widespread misunderstandings about using a wedding planner is this one. Many people believe that hiring a wedding planner will raise the stakes and increase the cost of the big day. It turns out that the situation is reversed: a wedding planner will frequently help keep things under control and ensure that you get the most for your money. It's my responsibility to manage your budget, negotiate prices, and assist you with important financial decisions.
With the aid of a wedding planner, we can help keep you and your partner accountable when it comes to your budget.
Next, calculate how much your peace of mind is worth. - Realizing that a professional, not a friend or family member, is handling the money you are spending on your wedding. The couple's entire vision may be ruined if they choose someone who is easily distracted or does not completely get the mechanics of all the vendors working together as a team.
Last but not least, a wedding planner might not always concur with you, but that's only because they want to make sure you're choosing the ideal things for your special day. Naturally, a good planner will endeavor to realize your dreams. However, it is the planner's duty to intervene if you are making an impulsive decision or a decision that may lead to logistical problems in the future. A planner is essentially your voice of reason. And frequently aids in resolving a disagreement when weighing the advantages and disadvantages.
Tulsa Weddings & Design
Aaron and Alix
By Doug and Ashley Photography
June 11, 2022 Photos by: Doug and Ashley Photography The lawyer and the teacher. Two different families and lives coming together to form one. One of the most incredible couples we have ever worked with is Aaron & Alix! The couple exchanged vows and sealed their union at Sperry, Oklahoma’s stunning Springs Event Venue, despite the early summer heat. Aaron kept grinning and pacing as he waited to see his future wife. The moment Aaron saw his bride, Alix, the anticipation was finally over. Aaron, Alix, and their kids made a unique glass frame, and vows were made.The celebration got underway once the vows were exchanged! Featured Tulsa Wedding Society Members: Planning & Coordination: Britney Keirsey – BeYoutiful Occassions Officiant: Catherine Mack – Green Country Wedding Minister Cake: Allison Dickens – Ludger’s Bavarian Cakery Catering: Goodies Catering Photography: Doug and Ashley PhotographyRead More
Tabor Warren Hey, there!Tabor here– First of all, congratulations on your engagement!!! I am thrilled that you are looking to make this the best time of your life, and want to do everything I can to help make that happen! A bit about me, I bust out “amazing” dad jokes on the fly, am always up for a foosball challenge, am very competitive, love all sports, and listen to music or podcasts at least 12 hours a day. I’m also an avid reader, guitarist, and outside enthusiast! I was born and raised in Tulsa, Was a lifer at Jenks, and went to OSU-Stillwater for my undergraduate and graduate work in Veterinary Medicine. I love being raw and prefer when people tell it how it is. When it comes to engagement and wedding photography, I am an open book and am committed to making sure every photo-related aspect I come across becomes the timeless heirloom quality your story deserves. Emily Warren Hey there, guys!I’m Emily– born and raised in Tulsa with a five-year detour in Stillwater, OK (Go Pokes!) On a standard day, you can find me at home, snuggling one of my six kiddos and throwing back cup loads of coffee. Photographing weddings and families are my specialty, but I also have a background in accounting. Handy, right? I’m a lover of lists, Harry Potter, sports (particularly football and basketball), The Office, vacations, and good conversation. I’d absolutely love to connect with you and figure out how we can serve you! Chances are, if you click the “Contact” button, I will be the one on the other end. 🙂 Be the best Bride you can be with the Tulsa Wedding Society. Let TWS make your day! Tabor & Emily Warren, Tabor Warren Photography – 2022 Tulsa Wedding Society PresidentRead More
How much cake should I order for my wedding? Submitted by: Laura Talbot, of Ms. Laura’s Cakes Though it certainly seems like a simple question, it’s not as “cut & dry” as you may think. We actually need to discuss several more questions before we can answer this one. During the wedding planning process you will often hear the question, “How many guests are you planning on having at your wedding?”. Well, if you’re like most, you may not really know exactly how many there will be for sure. What you do know is: you’ve got a lot of people on your list, your future spouse’s list, and your parents’ list. But, how many guests will actually attend your wedding? How do you plan for food? How many servings of cake will you need? Well, I can certainly help you with that and I truly want to help you figure out how to have enough cake for everyone without having tiers & tears leftover after the wedding. Wedding Guest List? First, lets narrow down your lists. The best advice I can give you is from my own personal experience and that is to go over the list by considering the following thoughts: Consider how many guests are from out of state. If you think they will not attend then just send them an invitation, but mark them off of your food and cake list. Regarding the guests who are in state, go through and mark off the ones you are pretty sure won’t attend. But, be sure to send them an invite regardless of their expected attendance because, trust me, no one wants to be left out or forgotten. Will your wedding take place in the evening or early afternoon? This question is important! If it’s in the evening of the fall and winter months, it gets dark earlier. Some of your older guests (who may not like to drive after dark) and parents of little ones (who have early bed times) won’t be able to wait around till 9pm or later for you to cut the cake. On the other hand, if your wedding is in the afternoon, say 2 o’clock, your guests usually only expect cake and punch to be served. So, you will want to be sure you have enough cake to feed everyone for the entirety of the event. Next, a question you may have is, “How big is a serving of cake, actually?”. My cake serving size guide is the Wilton standard, which is a 1″ X 2″ slice. Your cake is on average 4″ thick, though sometimes a little thicker on request, but never less than 4″. Reception Guest List? So, now that you have an idea of how many guests you think will attend your wedding, here are few more questions for you to consider about the reception: How many guests do you plan on having at the reception? Some couples have a private ceremony, where only a select few are invited, but everyone else is invited to the reception. So, they are gonna need some cake, right? Are you planning to serve alcohol? If you are, then you should only plan to serve cake for two thirds of your guests. Why is this? Typically, most guys are not big sweets eaters anyway and, if they drink beer, they rarely eat cake. Some of the ladies will opt to consume the calories of an alcoholic beverage over eating cake. Other guests, partaking in alcohol consumption, will often be so busy visiting and partying that they won’t remember there is cake. Are you planning to have a groom’s cake? If so, then plan to serve approximately 50 servings of his cake. However, if the groom is wanting to showcase something fun and 3-dimensional, such as a 3-D football helmet or any other sculpted cake, you may need to accommodate for the popularity response and plan to reserve more than 50 servings for his cake. Unless you are planning to provide any additional desserts, sweets, or treats for your guests, you should now be able to figure out how many servings are needed for the wedding cake. Need an example? Okay, lets say you are planning to have 200 guests at your wedding and you are also serving beer and wine. While you definitely want to plan food for everyone, you really only need to serve cake for about 150 of your guests. Cake Shapes? Now to decide what shape you would like: round, square, heart, petal, hex, etc… Obviously, the most common are round or square, but there are some unique shapes that affect your overall slice count. For example, square cakes serve more per tier than a round cakes. Cake Layers? When you envision your dream wedding cake, you may picture a taller and far more grand design than you actually need, but that’s okay too. Let me explain how each tier adds more servings. Let’s consider a round cake that needs to serve 100 slices. You could do any of the following to achieve that desired number: 3 tier, round serving 74 3 tier, round serving 106 3 tier, round serving 125 4 tier, round serving 130 Get the idea? Pair your wedding cake with the groom’s cake and you will have close to 150 servings of cake total. Take my previous suggestions into consideration and plan accordingly, I guarantee that my concept works pretty well. Sure, you may run out of cake or perhaps you may have just a bit left over. The question to ask yourself is, “would I rather run out of cake or have extra cake, just in case?”. Now, if you want your cake to look bigger or are just really wanting extra cake, GREAT! I am happy to add to the brides cake by adding a “faux” layer (for the same price) or by beefing up the size of the groom cake. You can even opt to add a “kitchen” cake. That is a plain, frosted sheet cake that stays in the kitchen or goes under the cake table to provide extra servings if you should you need them. That way, if you serve all of the bride and groom cakes and end up not serving the kitchen cake, you will have an un-cut cake to enjoy the next day with family who may be in town for the wedding. I truly hope this information helps you to determine how much cake you will need for your wedding day. I am always happy to serve you and glad to answer any specific questions you may have regarding cakes, food, and treats! Confectionately honored to be your baker, Laura Talbot, owner of Ms. Laura’s CakesRead More
Leave the worry to us, we can get you photo ready! Submitted by: Ashlee Bivins & Heather Valentine, of Primp Hair & Makeup Studio Hay girl haaaaaaay! So you’re engaged? Cheers, we are so excited for you! There’s lots to do, but no worries! We are going to help you out with the fun stuff- makeup & hair and hittin’ the highlights (see what we did there?). Okay, so here’s the deal, having hair and makeup for photos and events that will withstand last long hours is very different than applying your everyday makeup and hair styling regimen. You want your hair and makeup to still look like perfection while salsa dancing at your reception. Ole! In order to achieve that photo perfect look, there are layering steps that professionals like us do and specific products used that will guarantee your look will outlast the festivities. Win, win, my friend! Our methods have been tried and true. Our past brides have actually sent us photos while on the plane to their honeymoon, still in full hair and makeup from the wedding day! Whaaaaaat….? I know, crazy right? But seriously, girl, it’s so true! Professionalism. -Throughout our years of working in the wedding industry, we have learned to work with all different personalities in all types of situations. Girl, lemme tell ya’, there have been some wild stories, but we are always able to get our brides through it. -We know how to handle situations that can arise in a high-stress environment and that is not something learned overnight. At the end of the day we strive to ensure everything is seamless for the bride. We actually sometimes double as therapists, like when our bride dropped her red lipstick down the front of her dress. For real, a total freak out moment for her, but we got her through it! Customized looks. -While we certainly take into consideration the current trends, we also keep in mind that the look needs to be timeless. We will give you our professional opinion on the looks you’ve pinned on your Pinterest boards. and from there we can weave the current trends into the final look. Years from now, when you are looking at your photos and showing your grandchildren how you looked on your wedding day, your look will be relevant and timeless. Trust us, you’ll thank us later! Fun. -You want to remember the morning of your wedding as being a fun mini party with all your favorite girls. Champagne glasses clinging, music, & laughter going on all while the hair & makeup applications are rotating with ease. Professionals like us know how to get the work finished in a timely manner, while also keeping the mood light and fun! Photo Credit: Chelsea Denise Photography Check out what some of our past brides have said about Primp! “I chose to try Primp for a trial based off a friend’s recommendation and immediately booked them for my Engagement Photos, Bridal Portraits and Wedding Day! One of the best decisions I made while wedding planning! Ashlee and Heather are so fun to work with and I had a blast with them each time they did my hair & makeup. Both of them can do anything and they made me + my bridesmaids feel so beautiful on my wedding day! I will recommend them to everyone I know!” “Ashlee and Heather did such an amazing job on my big day! After I was done being beautified with their amazing skills, I finally was able to take a peek of the end result and it threw me into a fit of happy tears. I was blown away by their work. Thank God for their waterproof lashes! My hair and makeup lasted well through the night, which I thought was impossible for me with my oily skin and fine flat hair, but I was proved very wrong! I never had to do any touch ups with hair/ makeup. My hair was still up, curled and in tact (seriously-even the following day which is a first for me) and all of my bridesmaids and family were equally thrilled with their hair and makeup! Can’t wait to return for a fun and relaxing beauty session with these ladies soon! Thank you so much Ashlee and Heather!” Got more questions? We are happy to help! Contact us today and we will get you scheduled in for your trial with us. PrimpTulsa.com | Makeup@primptulsa.com | Hair@primptulsa.com | 918-619-2384 Xo, Primp Girls- Ashlee & HeatherRead More
When Wedding Pro’s Work Together… submitted by: Mandy Miller, Wedding Floral Designer of Divine Designs by Mandy Hey there, Tulsa Wedding Society followers- Thanks for visiting our blog again! This week we wanted to share with you what happens when experienced wedding professionals get together to create something we call design “eye-candy”. Back in January, Dresser Mansion held an Open House at their historic venue where Tulsa wedding professional were invited to come and visit with brides & grooms about wedding planning. Some of our members of The Tulsa Wedding Society got together to design a tablescape set up that turned into an impromptu styled shoot and the results were exciting and visually outstanding. Bethany Faber, a wedding planner of Bethany Faber Events, who also represents Dresser Mansion as their venue coordinator contacted wedding floral designer Mandy Miller, of Divine Designs by Mandy to provide fresh floral designs for the attendees of the open house to view and enjoy. The success of their collaboration began with excellent communication regarding the execution of the design plan and was carried out beautifully due to the like mindedness of their taste & style. Add a beautifully crafted, artistic wedding cake from Laura Talbot of Ms. Laura’s Cakes, and “Viola” folks, you’ve got an amazing collaboration. Fortunately for us, the talented wedding photographer Andi Bravo was onsite that day and she happily agreed to document photos of the gorgeous results of the collective design. Take a look at this bright and citrus-y styled wedding theme designed by our Tulsa Wedding Society Members: Floral Designer | Divine Designs by Mandy Cake Designer | Ms. Laura’s Cakes Venue | Dresser Mansion Photo Credit: Andi Bravo Photography Linens and serving ware available at: Party Pro RentsRead More
Our Favorite first looks Submitted by: Andrea Murphy, of Andrea Murphy Photography Who loves a great first look? As a photographer it’s one of my favorite parts of the day! I don’t just say that because it makes my job a bit easier (because of course it does) but because it’s truly a beautiful moment. And these photos will prove that! First I’d like to dispel a few myths about having a first look. Myth 1: “If you see each other before you walk down the aisle the moment won’t be special.” My experience is that, overwhelmingly, the couples (especially the grooms) are far more emotional during the processional if they’ve seen one another. I think it’s because the pressure is off – they’ve already hugged, kissed, and loved on each other and now they just get to be fully present in that moment. Myth 2: “It breaks tradition.” Okay, okay I understand because I love me some tradition and am an old soul. However, new traditions are created all of the time. I’ve been photographing first looks for 17 years and this isn’t a new concept. If you look into where some of these traditions originated you might be a little horrified and you’ll definitely have a giggle. This is your wedding and you can do what you please. Myth 3: “Pictures are the only reason to have a first look.” I won’t deny that having time for photos is a major advantage to seeing one another before the ceremony, but there’s a lot of great reasons for a first look. Before we move away from the photos thing, I’d like to expand (I’m a photographer after all). When you have your engagement or bridal photos, you don’t run out and do them in 10 minutes, right? So why on the wedding day itself rush through as quickly as you can because your guests are waiting? You’ve made a significant investment in your photographer it’s in your best interest to make the most of that investment by having gorgeous photos of you and your spouse. Beyond that though what better day to spend together than your wedding day? You’re with your fiance all the time and they are who you’d rather spend your time than anyone else. So why on the wedding day suddenly quarantine yourself from seeing and talking to one another? This is both of your wedding day and you should be able to enjoy it together. So if that didn’t convince you I’d like to offer you some photographic evidence from our Tulsa Wedding Society members. We have collaborated to show you some of our sweetest and fun first looks that we’ve had the honor in which to take part. And just to add a cherry on top of these sweet photos, here’s a video from Pen Weddings of a few adorable first looks. I’m not crying. You’re crying. To learn more about Tulsa Wedding Society photographers click here.Read More
REAL OKLAHOMA WEDDING submitted by: Whitney Hewitt of Erica Weddings As a wedding planner, you dream of one day just as much as your own: the day your best friend gets married. Not only that, but my best friend Heather is also on the team at Erica Weddings as a Set Up Manager. I knew one thing would be extra true with this wedding: it was all about the details. Brandon’s mother lost her battle to cancer early on when Heather and Brandon were dating. The couple remembered her with a special in loving memory bouquet as well as Brandon wore a charm with her portrait on the inside of his jacket, closest to his heart. The farmhouse tables used for the head table were built by Whitney and Heather by hand and are used daily in their own homes. Heather and Brandon love to hunt together. Since their wedding fell on the first day of rifle season, many weren’t surprised that the morning of their wedding they could be found in a tree stand. If you look closely in her bouquet and centerpieces you’ll see turkey feathers from one of their hunts together. With so many personal details, this wedding was an emotional day filled with love. Heather’s brother officiated the ceremony and there wasn’t a dry eye around. Featured Tulsa Wedding Society Members: Planning & Coordination | Erica Weddings DJ and Lighting | LionsRoad Cake and Cookies | Ms. Laura’s Cakes Rentals | Party Perfect Other wedding vendors: Venue: Riverbend Ranch Flowers: Tina’s Floral Design Photography: Hibben Photography Gown: FacchianosRead More
Real Oklahoma Wedding Submitted by: Andrea Murphy Photography From the moment we met with Viktoriya, we knew this wedding would be different. She started off by telling the story of how she had given up on love to focus on a career and that was when Craig walked into her bank and life, and shortly her heart. From the first moment, Craig was enamored by the lovely Viktoriya and asked his contact at the bank to make up and excuse for him to come back so he could see her.One thing followed another and within a few short months they were engaged and planning a wedding, both so very in love and excited to plan their perfect day. The couple chose to get married on a perfect August day at the Golf Club of Oklahoma with their family and friends in attendance. Featured Tulsa Wedding Society Members: Wedding Planning & Floral | Mom & Me Events Music & Entertainment | Infinity Music Event Draping | Soft Touch Draping Wedding Cake | Ms. Laura’s Cake Wedding Photography | Andrea Murphy PhotographyRead More
WEDDING FLORAL TRENDS | EXPERT Q & A Today I sat down with Anne Marie Foy of the French Bouquet to discuss all things floral. She gladly offered some valuable insight and expert advice for brides to consider regarding floral design trends and the D.I.Y. approach verses hiring a professional wedding florist for their special event. Here is what she had to say: Q. How do you respond to the current, popular trend of oversized bouquets with lots of greenery that we are seeing lately in weddings? A. “I would prefer to see smaller bouquets again, personally. I feel like this trend is a tired mix of the “80’s” meets Ikebana. I would prefer to complement the brides’ gowns rather than hide them with humongous floral pieces. I hope to redirect this overdone trend by offering D.I.Y. design classes to interested brides.” Q. What direction would you personally like to go with new trends? A. “I would really like to see design ideas evolve and become more out of the box than what our brides are currently seeing on Pinterest. I can actually offer several different design styles. I am often considered the master of white weddings but, I can offer so much more variety than what I have done in the past. I want to encourage brides to stop conforming to what other brides are doing by being bold and embracing their true personality. I have 15 years of experience, a huge design space, several talented staff members and we are ready to step up to the challenge with the services we have to offer.” Q. What do you feel is most important for a bride to expect when booking with a florist? A. “Gained trust in our knowledge and experience with product and design as well trust in our abilities. Brides should trust in experienced florists to give them the best options in designs and products. Secondly, connection is very important. Brides need to be excited about our ideas as floral designers and we want them to actually feel the enthusiasm and passion in what we do.” Q. What to you say to brides who are considering DIY with their own bouquets? A. “Of course, I love to do weddings myself, but I am in the process of starting up workshops soon to educate brides on how to make pretty bouquets on their own. I am very excited and passionate to share my knowledge with brides who prefer to do their own flowers. My goal is to provide with them a more personal tutorial experience in achieving a D.I.Y. approach.” If you have more questions for Anne Marie and her staff, send them an email today! They look forward to visiting with you! Email: email@example.com By Phone: 918-747-6750Read More